Life tip #12: Be confident

There’s a fine line between being confident and being arrogant, but I feel quite confident that you know where that line is drawn and, if not, just take a step back and notice which one gives you a good feeling. I remember I was asked to give a speech on global warming to a class a few years ago and I was so nervous before (this is probably where confidence takes the biggest beating: public speaking), but once I started talking, I knew the topic so well that all the unease left and was filled with confidence. I was most proud of my ability to answer questions which I hadn’t prepared for at all. We have certain parts of our lives where our confidence shines, but for some, confidence is lacking in the place that is most important: in ourselves, for ourselves. I see so many people (and am guilty of this myself quite often) slouching through life, but I urge you to sit up straight, speak clearly, and walk with confidence. This is your life and only you know how to be yourself. And until you feel that you can truly be 100% confident, pretend you are and soon enough you’ll find that you’re not pretending anymore. Where do you feel most confident? Have you already found that confidence in yourself? Please do fill me in!

  • Misty :)

    Ahh, confidence. Such a good tip. I am still currently working on this. After so many years of public speaking, even if I knew the topic like the back of my hand, I would still be nervous. I have never felt confident in my ability of public speaking. I am slowly getting their though. These past 2 semesters have shown me that it isn’t as bad as what I think it is. I still hate it, but I’m not as nervous anymore. For me being confident though, it would have to deal with anything work related (at my job anyway) since I have been there for quite some time now, I understand the system, the policies, and just how to get things done. And it helps when upper management come to me and ask me how to do something because they don’t know how! So that really helps with my confidence. I am also starting to feel more confident in just myself in general. I used to hate the way I looked, the way I talked, what I did. Basically everything. Now, I’m just being myself. Or trying to anyway. And it definitely pays off. Co-workers have even commented that they can see a difference as well. So that helps it even more! I think the best way to be confident is just by being yourself and not worrying about what others think. I know, easier said than done. But it is possible!

    Great tip and post! I love the picture you provided too! It suits it very well :)

  • Kayla @ Exquisite Banana

    yes yes yes, so very true. Genuine, sincere confidence in a person is so refreshing and inspiring. The game-changers and connectors in this world are almost always unmatched in their quiet confidence sense of self-worth.

  • BarbaraAnne

    This is a beautiful post :) I think a lot of confidence is in the mind. If you feel happy with who you are, what you are doing and where you want to be, the confidence just comes naturally because you’re not worried about what other people think!

  • Sana

    I’m back for my favorite series! My confidence came with age. In my early twenties it was hard to truly be confident because I wasn’t quite sure who I was yet. As I got closer to 30 I stopped apologizing so much and started to kind of say- love it or leave it! :)

  • Brandi {not your average ordinary}

    Lately, I’ve been having a bit of trouble feeling confident. I think my confidence comes from certainty and right now everything in my life is really uncertain. I’ll get back there. And I think one of the key differences between confidence and arrogance isn’t how you feel but how act.

  • Krystal/Village

    I think I am a good level of confident. I hope!

  • Chelsea

    I need to heart this message more often, haha, having a lack of confidence is big struggle of mine. Thanks for posting; I’m inspired.

    BTW- I tagged you for a blog award over on my site today, check it out!

  • Gabriella {sensiblyluxe}

    Yesterday I had a lovely intellectual conversation with a Frenchman twenty years my senior (and quite my senior in terms of work titles too) about our jobs and history. It was one of the best conversations I’d had in a while, and I really surprised myself! I was a bit nervous about sharing my opinions with someone like him, but it was wonderful.

  • Rachael

    “This is your life and only you know how to be yourself”. I love what you said there. And it’s really true.
    I am shy, but I used to be really shy, and afraid of even being out in big crowds when I didn’t know anyone. Or scared to say what I wanted to say, because it may be stupid. But I’ve learned to stop being that way, and speak my mind for often. Because I’ll regret it if I don’t. Being 100% confident…I don’t think I’m there yet. But it’s important to feel that way. I guess I have to ‘fake’ it until it become true!

  • Colleen / Inspired to Share

    I love the phrase you used, “slouching through life” – that’s such a great way of putting it! Sometimes I find myself in those ruts but thanks for the reminder to stand up straight! ;)