Optimism is the key

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“In my ninety-plus years, I have learned a secret. I have learned that when good men and good women face challenges with optimism, things will always work out! Truly, things always work out! Despite how difficult circumstances may look at the moment, those who have faith and move forward with a happy spirit will find that things always work out.” ― Gordon B. Hinckley

There are times in life that it’s really easy to get discouraged and find yourself in a funk that’s hard to get out of. Lately, I’ve been finding myself in this funk off-and-on quite a bit with a variety of different topics.

With lots of trial and error, mostly throughout the years, I’ve finally come to the same conclusion as the one in this quote.

Optimism is the key! No matter what life presents to you, optimism makes it so much more bearable.

I have a few phrases that help me get through the rough days and one of them is “worry causes reason to worry”. Worrying does nothing good, whatsoever, so why bother with it? Our thoughts are very powerful, why risk the chance of making your worries turn into your reality?

I’ve found that not only does being optimistic lead to good outcomes, but it leads to better outcomes than when I worry or am aloof about something.

Plus, being pessimistic makes people seem so negative so it affects all those around us and brings them down, too. I believe that being optimistic allows you to be more you. Optimism allows you to relax and trust and let go of that fear of what will come.

I’m sharing this with all of you today because I wish I’d realized this a long time ago (although I’m really glad it didn’t take me 90 years!). Life would have been so much easier! Sure, I slip up and let pessimism cloud my thoughts, but then I remember that being pessimistic just adds to all the negativity that is already in this world and which is oftentimes what brings me down in the first place! Why be part of the problem when it just takes a change of mind to be part of the solution?

I’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject! Did you realize that optimism is one of the very important keys to happiness a long time ago? Did you have an epiphany or did you gradually realize? Have you tried being optimistic and not had positive outcomes? Let’s start a discussion in the comments below!

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  • http://www.greenderella.com Franziska

    I totally agree, optimism is so important! Over the years I noticed that those things I was usually pessimistic about, either never turned out to be as bad as I thought, or they opened new doors that I never thought would exist and brought me happiness in the end. Of course it always depends on the circumstances, but often I simply stop worrying or feeling sad because I know that one day I will look back saying: “If this bad thing didn’t happen back then, I wouldn’t be in this good place right now.” I simply try to trust in this and so far it has always worked.
    And I also have to share this quote with you (I don’t know from who), that I tell myself whenever I did something that I regret and start being pessimistic about: “Bad decisions make good stories!” :-) It helps me to keep my humor, which is also so important… because in the end life is a journey and we should go through it more lightly, without heavy luggage (like pessimism).

  • Eva

    Franziska – Hahah, yes! We just have to replace the negative sayings we’ve drilled into our heads with positive ones (and when they’re funny – that’s an extra bonus :D). You’ve brought up another really important point… looking back, we realize that all those things that may have even appeared bad at the time actually lead to better and greater things. We just needed to take those necessary steps :) Such a great addition to the conversation, thank you!

  • http://www.hanhabelle.com HANH

    Lovely post Eva, I honestly think there is nothing worse than negative attitude and pessimism. I try and remove myself from that situation and look for the positive. In my early twenties I used to be so angry all the time, slowly since being with my partner who always sees things positively I approach situations with a more optimistic approach :)

  • http://www.hollandsreverie.blogspot.com Chelsea

    I e always been a glass is half full kind of girl- I always joke that I’m not very grounded in reality, but in truth I think that’s one of my better qualities:) hope you find lots of happiness with you new outlook!

    http://www.hollandsreverie.blogspot.com

  • http://www.theunlikelyhousewife.com Elisa

    I think it was a gradual realization for me too. I mean, it’s one of those things that have always been in the back of my mind, but sometimes it takes you a while to truly believe in something, it has to become true to YOU. With all my health struggles in the past two years, with the inexplicable chronic fatigue that was having a negative impact on everything, this finally became true to me when I decided I was just going to find a way to get better and feel better and take control of my body and my life again. Almost a year later, and I am happier and more serene than I have been in a long time.
    Sorry, a bit of a rant there! But I truly believe this quote you shared to be the absolute truth!

  • http://www.cityloveee.blogspot.com Christina

    I couldn’t agree with this post more. I always try my best to be optimistic. I think an example I can give is when I play volleyball. When we’re losing it’s so easy for my team to be down in the dumps. But I always try to be as optimistic as possible because it’s not going to hurt to try and be positive. Loved this post, Eva.

    Christina
    http://www.cityloveee.blogspot.com

  • http://laloofah.blogspot.com Laloofah

    “I’m an optimist, but I’m an optimist who carries an umbrella.” (Harold Wilson) I think that describes my brand of optimism! :-) But I’m married to someone who is perpetually, unequivocally optimistic about everything. If he finds himself in the rain without an umbrella, he’s finds a way to enjoy the experience, is grateful that the plants are getting watered or our car is getting rinsed off or just happily starts looking for the rainbow he just knows will appear… and what’s not to love about someone with that sort of attitude, especially in adversity? (I think it says a lot that his favorite coffee mug says, “Life is all about how you handle Plan B.” :-)

    I’m not sure if, or how much, our attitudes influence events, but I’m confident they determine how we experience those events, and how we influence the experience of those around us. And that may be what really counts.

  • Eva

    I’m loving this conversation and all that each one of you is bringing to it! Thank you!!

    Hanh – That’s so good! I know many people feed of negativity and it’s sometimes a hard trap to get out of. How great that you have a partner that helps you keep up your optimism and positivity!

    Chelsea – I often like to go there, too, haha!

    Elisa – I completely agree with you! I had no idea of the struggles you’ve been through. I’m really happy to hear that you’ve been able to take the good out of those struggles and come out stronger and so positive! Thank you for sharing… big, big hug!

    Christina – SO glad this post resonated with you. Great example… a game is meant to be fun so why get down about it? Thank you, again, for sharing my post with others :)

    Laloofah – Haha, I’ve not heard that quote before. It’s so wonderful to hear about how optimistic and positive partners are among my readers! :) I love your husband’s way of thinking… I think I could think more like that sometimes, too!

  • http://blackheartclubhouse.wordpress.com April

    I am very, very, very bad at this. I have a bad attitude. I try to be positive, but it isn’t a natural state for me! I do feel like the more gloom and doom I am the more strongly I react to situations.

  • http://fourleafcloverblog.com Eva @ Four Leaf Clover

    April – I grew out of a culture that is super pessimistic so it’s something I’ve been working on for years and continue to work on all the time. It’s possible! And so worth it :)

  • http://ecofriendlyhomemaking.com Alicia@ eco friendly homemaking

    Oh what a good post!! Things always go better when you have a good optimistic attitude!