Once he grows up

The older I get, the more differences I see between children and adults. Whereas children feel free to do whatever they please, adults feel constricted to rules and beliefs that have formed boundaries around what they do, say, think, and every aspect of their lives. Yes, some children react to these things faster than others and begin to censor themselves, but until they start to get scolded, they are free spirits.

Discipline may be necessary, but I wonder if it would be so necessary if kids didn’t see the things that got them scolded in the first place. If they didn’t see violence, hear bad words, or convince themselves that broccoli is gross because their friend told them it is.

I once read that, to discover what one (you) should do as an adult for a career, you should look back and take a close look at what someone (you) did and enjoyed the most as a child. If someone liked to draw, perhaps they should be an artist of some sort; if they liked to read, maybe they should be a writer or editor; if someone liked building blocks, then they might be destined to be working with buildings in construction or an architect; if they spent all of their playing time making Playdough pizzas, they may just grow up to be making real food in a restaurant. I think you get the idea.

As a child, I wanted to be a writer and help animals… not a thing has changed (although, I did love making those Playdough pizzas and love to cook now and I wonder where that inner artist of mine disappeared to).

These words by Pablo Picasso struck a chord with me and I’ve held onto them since first reading them. We all want to end up doing whatever we love to do as a career, to be paid for what we love. If only we were shaped and molded by those around us from the very beginning to grow up and be exactly what we wanted to, what we should, be. It may take a bit longer to get where we need to be, but I’m holding onto faith and, with so many more entrepreneurs popping up, I have a good feeling the world is finally starting to go more towards this path.

What did you most love to do as a child? Are you still doing it now? Do you hope to eventually? Let me know and have a beautiful weekend!


Brandi {not your average ordinary}
27 August 2011 - 2:56 am

I don’t know if I remember what I loved to do as a child. For a while, I wanted to be an astronomer. I wanted to dance ballet. I liked dreaming up new ideas. I dreamed about being a superhero and saving the world. Not of that directly translates into a job, but I’m not too worried about that. I’m sure I’ll continue to figure that out, but I’ll definitely keep in touch with my younger self, that free spirit, that dreamer.

Kayla @ Exquisite Banana
27 August 2011 - 3:00 am

I wholly believe in the advice of following your passions from childhood. So many of us change direction or course because of external influences and lose sight of the things that actually make us happy. At the very least, revisiting personal interests from our youth remind us of how wonderful it feels to be inspired.

p.s. when I was a child, I wanted to be a mama and a performer and a writer and an artist and a princess and a doctor and a chef and an explorer. I like to think I’m all of these things in my chosen profession–the kids make it easy πŸ™‚

27 August 2011 - 12:00 pm

that is a really great quote, and i love your words…all so true and good to think about. i guess you spend your whole adulthood figuring that out maybe!

27 August 2011 - 3:26 pm

Makes so much sense…all I did as a kid was decorate my dollhouses, play with legos, and read house plan magazines. In hindsight, my career path was so obvious…I have a post planned on that soon. πŸ˜‰

27 August 2011 - 5:35 pm

Lovely post! I completely agree with all of this. My fiance’s mother took our daughter to the store the other day & when they passed my halloween decorations, she told her they were scary. Now when we pass by the same spot she almost breaks down into tears. It’s ridiculous and scary how easily our words can affect children. Even though it’s tough, I’m SO careful not to implant my own thoughts or ideas into her, because I want her to be her own free thinking person.

27 August 2011 - 10:19 pm

Read and write! But you already knew that. haha. I played school a lot, and house. But I already know I don’t want to teach….I do want to be a mom though : )

Lydia @ See Beautiful
28 August 2011 - 3:59 pm

I LOVE that quote! It always perplexes me how we do grow out of this. Why? Why do we stop making good use out of empty cardboard boxes? Why do we stop seeing magic in playdough? I love the message.

I always wanted to teach. Check. I always wanted to be a mom. I will be someday.

Alexandra (Veggin’ Out in the Kitchen)
28 August 2011 - 4:13 pm

As always, this is such a beautifully written post! And wow, that quote is so mind-provoking.

I remember wanting to ride and own a horse ever since I was tiny, and now both are true. I also loved drawing and breading when I was a little, and still love both! πŸ™‚

<3 <3

Liz Longacre
28 August 2011 - 7:55 pm

Love this post Eva! So beautiful and so well said. If only every child could be encouraged to follow their true callings straight through to adulthood!

29 August 2011 - 11:49 am

True, but grown ups need to work to get through life, while kids don’t. Only thing that kids need to do is to play!

29 August 2011 - 12:44 pm

Brandi – You’ve got so many interests and hobbies, I’m sure you incorporate a little bit here and there of all of those. : )

Kayla – Well, aren’t you lucky? Hah! You get all of your dreams in one all while watching and helping others along their way.

Krystal – You think so? Maybe it’s rare of me to have known pretty much exactly what I wanted to be from childhood.

Susan – Haha, yes! I forgot all about legos, but I definitely played with those a ton, too. Looking forward to your post!

Hollie – Ah, yeah.. that’s unfortunate. I hope it’s just those decorations that scare your daughter and not much more. I’ve noticed a difference in children I was just around for a couple of hours so I can only imagine how tough of a job you have as a mother!

Meredith – You were a pretty good “teacher” in newspaper! ; )

Lydia – It looks like many of us are already on the right path starting from childhood! There comes a time when things aren’t “cool” anymore, but who decides? Where does this trail trickle down from? Hmm…

Alexandra – Thank you! Looks like that inner child sticks with us more than I thought!

Liz – You’re so right.. “if only”, and thank you!

Kimberly – I’m not sure I’d say that all kids need to do is play. As a child, I remember helping out my parents quite a bit with many different tasks not to mention learning so many new things. And I’m sure I had it easy as a child, whereas others in many different cultures need to work to get through life, like you mentioned, from a very early age and they still manage to fit in play and being little artists.

30 August 2011 - 12:58 am

Love this post!
Wow. You’re making me think!!
Well, I’m probably not doing what I’m meant to be doing. I mean, I like what I do, but I don’t love it. I’m a Nanny. I love kids, but I’m glad to leave and go home at the end of the day, and sometimes I’m counting the hours until I have to leave.
When I was a kid, I loved, and still love, to read. I wrote in a journal a lot!! And I loved to play with my sister. Just kid games.
So…I’m not sure what that means I should be doing. But I guess if it includes the things I love, even on a hobby basis, I’ll be okay.

4 September 2011 - 11:34 pm

Rachael – I’m sure if you looked at what types of games you liked to play most, that would help!

Misty :)
16 September 2011 - 5:59 pm

I wish I remembered what I loved to do when I was a child. I know I loved to read (and I was very much interested in becoming a writer when I was younger), I used to love to draw and paint (although, I sometimes did horrible at it) but never really considered being an artist, I also loved to play volleyball (but only for fun, never for a career). One thing that hasn’t changed is, I used to love taking pictures. Whenever I would have a camera (whether it be digital, disposable, or the old school one where you took the film to get developed, I would always find things to take pictures of. It didn’t matter who or what it was. If I thought it was cool, I would take pictures of it.

As I told you earlier today, I am planning on going back to school for photography. As of right now, it will be just for a hobbie. That way I can develop my pictures and make they look real nice. Heck, I think they even teach you how to use photoshop to touch em up sometimes. But if I get good enough at it, and love it enough, I could start my own business of it? I’m not sure. Not sure where it will lead me. But I do know I want to go back to school for it.

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